D + T = 4EPosted: April 19, 2012
This post is in response to a piece my girlfriend, @DCapriato, posted yesterday on her own blog about our relationship. I shouldn’t say I didn’t have the foresight to do it without a little prompting, but as I mentioned in my first post, my work hours are not favorable to partake in these extracurriculars. I get lazy.
The week of April 17, 2011 ended up changing my life for the better. As some may know, I consider myself a devout Catholic, and it just so happened to be Holy Week. I’ve never asked for handouts, but I was an absolute mess prior to that week, and I could have gone for a pick-me-up, from God, family, friends, etc.
2011 began horribly. I worked at an internet sports station where I was getting stiffed on pay for four months, and I’m owed three grand to this day. On March 1, the station “suspended operations,” which happened to be the day before my birthday. A few days later, my Saturn was totaled by a drunk driver when I was 500 feet from my friend’s house.
Some birthday week, huh?
In five days, I was jobless and car-less, and I didn’t have the cash to purchase a new one. I never once complained, but I was without a shoulder to lean on or a friend to speak with. Truth be told, no one outside really cared.
But I had been depressed for much longer than that. As you may have surmised, I’m not a very sunny individual, so losing one’s job and only means of transportation didn’t help matters.
But there were three things that have directed my life in a more positive direction, and all three continue to be integral parts of my life:
Working out – When unfortunate things happen to people, many resort to diversions that could be detrimental to one’s health. Many abuse alcohol, drugs, and even food, but I chose to help myself rather than hurt it. I lifted weights, ran a few miles a day, ate healthier, and took supplements. I was in the best shape of my life.
Faith – I don’t evangelize publicly, but my faith in God really helped me. Looking back at the accident, I should have been killed. Not only did I walk away alive, but I was completely unharmed. I received a Crucifix on Easter Sunday, and haven’t taken it off.
Twitter – I signed up for Twitter in 2008, but didn’t use it consistently until a year later. With 140 characters, it was the perfect outlet to showcase my snark and sarcasm, which make up a large part of my personality.
Enter Danielle. Sometime in April, she followed a bunch of active Twitter users from the Cleveland area, and I just so happened to be one of the lucky fellas. Not long after, I followed her back, and on April 18 (a year ago yesterday), I responded to her tweet about the song “My Own Worst Enemy” by the band Lit.
I could tell she had a solid personality based on her tweets, which were about music, pop culture, and general observations about life. A day didn’t go by where we didn’t tweet each other at least a dozen times, and it got to the point where we should eventually meet formally.
On May 13, we met at a Cleveland Indians game, and things have never been the same since that particular Friday. Minutes before meeting Danielle, I received a call from my friend a now co-worker about a possible radio job at a new radio station.
Anywho, Danielle and I hit it off from the beginning, and it was evident that we were head-over-heels about each other. Our first date occurred a week later, and we made our relationship official by June 5. Since then, we have been inseparable…except for the fact that we see each other MAYBE 43 hours a week.
Right now, I will answer the questions about Twitter/online dating that Danielle posted in her blog.
1. Did you and Danielle meet on Twitter?
Uh, yeah, didn’t you read what I wrote above? Moron.
2. Were you looking for a girlfriend on Twitter?
Yes, I was looking for a girlfriend, but no, not on Twitter. I have met many great social media users, and some were indeed attractive human beings. But I equated dating/hooking up with someone on Twitter the way one would do the same at the office. If things go awry, you have no choice but to be reminded of that person constantly, and things can get rather awkward.
3. How did you make your relationship public on Twitter?
Danielle and I played a little game with our fellow compadres. Due to a jealous co-worker at her previous job, she didn’t want to make it public until the time was right, but our game was to see how long it would take for folks to catch on. It wasn’t until maybe September or October that we spilled the beans, though it was generally understood.
4. How did you start following each other?
Again, read what I wrote above, you waste of sperm.
5. How do you meet a boy/girlfriend on Twitter?
Here are some tips: Get a grasp on who you’re speaking to, especially you guys out there. If she doesn’t seem like the girl who enjoys being flirted with, well, DON’T FLIRT WITH HER. Also, you don’t have to respond to EVERYTHING she tweets. Lastly, easy on the direct messages. If you violate one, two, or all three of these, you’re branded a creep, and your reputation will get out. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen (not to me, as I’m a consummate gentleman)
6. How do you handle your relationship being public?
We poke plenty of fun at each other on the interwebz, but we are madly in love with each other, and get this: WE HAVEN’T HAD A FIGHT. We’ve disagreed a tad about some political or social issues, but never about our relationship.
Perhaps it’s easy for me to say, but the most important thing in a relationship is for both parties to be on the same page. Danielle and I both know what we want out of the relationship, each other, and ourselves.
And Danielle, I love you, and hope you enjoyed this rambling post!